How to Have Confidence When Talking to a Woman
by James Greenier
So many times, the toughest part about meeting a woman is finding a way to spark up a conversation. It seems so simple in theory. Just walk up, say hello and everything falls right into place. Unfortunately, it is not always that easy.
What should you say and how should you say it? There is no handbook or manual you can turn to for answers. But there are plenty of ways to build up your confidence to the point where you can walk up to any woman and start up a conversation.
The first thing to remember is to remain confident. Even if you are terrified on the inside, don’t let it show. One way to remain confident is remember that you have nothing to lose. If a woman shuns you, you are no worse than you were ten seconds ago. After all, what is the worse thing that could possibly happen?
Too many times, fear gets in the way and causes us to keep quiet. Try letting go of your fear of rejection. Without that fear, you will be able to take confident strides while also speaking in a confident tongue. Women are very attracted to confidence. If the first thing a woman sees in you is confidence, you will have already won half the battle.
Another way to boost your confidence is by dressing to impress. That doesn’t necessarily mean getting dressed in formal wear. It just means being comfortable with how you look. There are certain days when you look in the mirror and just know that a certain outfit captures you at your best. Try investing in a few more of those outfits. The better self-image you have of yourself, the more confident you will feel and the easier it will be to meet women. So treat yourself to a new haircut or a new outfit. The dollars you spend will not just be an investment in hair or clothes; they will be an investment in confidence.
Many times, men look at a beautiful woman and immediately place her high up on a pedestal. But don’t forget women are the same as men. They can be just as nervous. They can be just as uncertain. And they too can have confidence issues when it comes to trying to member of the opposite sex. Keep in mind you are on the same playing field as women and they have the same insecurities. Reminding yourself of this fact will go a long way in boosting your own confidence.
Also remember that practice makes perfect. Practice your approach on some female friends. Get comfortable with all the nuances that come with initiating a new conversation. Then try to use that same approach when trying to meet a woman you don’t know. Practice could also be as simple as paying a compliment to your bank teller, waitress, cashier or any other female you encounter over the course of a day. Tell her something simple like she has a nice smile or pretty eyes. Women love compliments and their general response usually does wonders for a man’s confidence.
Positivity will also go a long way in your approach. Most women do not want to hear complaints, pessimism or cutting remarks. Looking on the bright side, staying positive and offering a kind word will show you off as a quality person. Even if a woman is not physically attracted to you, she could find some intrigue in how positive you are. That kind of positivity is another sign that you are indeed a confident man.
The more you practice these steps, the more your confidence will grow. And the more your confidence grows, the easier it will be to walk up and talk to any woman. But remember, practice makes perfect.
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